Sex Toys for Couples

Regardless of the current excitement level in your intimate relationship, incorporating some sex toys toys for couples can enhance the experience. Premium couples’ toys aren’t meant to be intrusive or overbearing; instead, they should blend in smoothly with your current sex or introduce you to novel forms of intimacy. There are plenty of toys available on the market that will effectively target every erogenous zone, including the clit, penis, G-spot, prostate, and more. If you are looking for sex toys specifically for a gender, we have mens article and womens article.

Why Use Sex Toys Together as a Couple?

First and foremost: Sex toys are a boost of fun in any sexual encounter, couple or not, but when couples are intimate while using toys they can expand the options for fun in the bedroom exponentially. “Sex toys help couples experiment and add new sensations when it comes to sexual expression” according to Dr. Mundada, a psychiatrist and sexologist. They give assistance in hitting the targets, you could normally struggle with in the heat of the moment, making it enjoyable for both parties.

Another great point is attacking the “orgasm gap”, a phrase used to characterize the unequal quantity of orgasms that women in heterosexual relationships have in comparison to males, mostly as a result of too little clitoral stimulation during sex. Here a lot of sex toys, are specifically designed to do this just this job, and can help a woman reach climax the vast majority of the time. Again, this is not to be seen as a substitute but rather a helping hand, so all parties in the couple reach climax.

Last point, out of many, is that sex toys can help couples start a healthy conversation about wants and needs in the bedroom. Sometimes showing what your favourite sex toy can do, and how it can be used, is a great way to open up conversation.

How Do Couples Get Started using Sex Toys?

People can be insecure about the use of sex toys, we will cover this more later on, but we recommend introducing your personal favourite toy into your relationship at first. This will make it more comfortable for both parties, as one knows every aspect of the toy and can guide openly, while the other part knows it is a sex toy that brings their significant other joy.

Generally, it is key having open communication about what you want to experience and what feelings you have, as good communication will make sure that both parts are comfortable and on the same page.

What Sex Toys are Good for Couples?

Loads of sex toys are designed with couples in mind, but the reality is that all sex toys can be used by couples, so it is not necessary to stick to those explicitly mentioned as couples sex toys. An example could be clit vibrators, which in our world is a must have sex toy, can be used as its intended purpose, however, it can also be used by your partner to stimulate other erogenous zones, such as inner thighs, nipples or the anus area. Just be sure to remember that if the sex toy has been in used in or close proximity to the anus, be sure to thoroughly clean it before using it elsewhere.

Generally, we recommend buying the sex toys together, or picking them out together if you already have a large arsenal of sex toys. Buying the toys together as a couple is actually often just as hot as using them. That way you also make sure you are in sync of what to incorporate in the bedroom. Figure out how the toys work before you start getting intimate (we can’t think of something less sexy than reading a manual during sex). If you are using battery-powered toys, make sure there is enough juice in the toy, so you can keep the juices flowing under your act. The same goes if it is a rechargeable sex toy, make sure you charged it! Lastly, before we start recommending the best sex toys for couples, you need to make sure the material is body-safe! The sex toy industry is not heavily regulated, and this leads to some sex toys not being made of quality materials. We have an article here, if you are interested in the best materials for sex toys! Now that we have the basics covered, here are our favourite sex toys for couples:

Vibrating cock rings

Cock rings are perfect for the purpose they are built for, don’t get us wrong. They enchance, and prolong his pleasure, however there is another use! They can actually also be slipped over his fingers, and make him a cyborg clit stimulating god! Using your fingers, with a little aid from the vibrations, makes him into clit whisperer, while saving the human touch, and that is why it is one of our favourites!

Wand Massager

Wand massagers are very versatile, and easy to operate! Ideally, you should get one that is cordless as the cord can be annoying, but both work! The toy is meant for stimulating the lower regions, but it can be used to tease other body parts. The majority of individuals find vibrating devices to be enjoyable, and including a wand into foreplay and sexual activities may greatly increase the enjoyment factor, even the person not on the receivind end! They can actually give a decent massage also.

Insertable vibrator

There are more insertable vibrators on the market than can be tried in a person’ lifetime. We recommend ones that are a size where they can fit in your palm, come with different vibrations/pulse controls, so you can find the one that is perfect for you. Otherwise, it is really up to preference which one to go with. These provide great stimulation both for the receiving part, and also the giving part.

Pegging with Strap-on Dildos

Strap-on dildos are for couples ready to take it to the next level. We wrote an awesome article on it here, that takes you from A-Z in what you need to know about strap-on sex. A brief summary is that it is the ultimate role switch if you are in a hetero relationship, where the man can achieve orgasms beyond imagination while the giver is also pleasured through the act.

Be careful about sex toy anxities

When you are trying to introduce sex toys into the relationship, your partner may worry that “they are not enough”. Many women and men report hiding their sex toys away from their significant others, for the sole reason that they are concerned about their partner’s reaction.

The big worry about not being good enough is not limited to men. Sexual insecurities can come up, especially when sexual prowess and body image are in the picture. What it comes down to is perception of the individual feeling anxious and intimidated by the use of sex toys. This also means that talking about it can go a long way.

“If people don’t necessarily talk about how they’re feeling about the toy on an emotional, physical, and sexual level before, during and after using the toy, it may result in issues. If one partner is sexually insecure, the toys may bring up triggering feelings, negatively impacting the relationship,” says expert Vatsalya, Sexuality Eduactor. There is however, a solution to this; It is very important that you communicate with the part feeling insecure that sex toys are a supplement, and do not substitute the sexual intimacy there is in your relationship. While it’s true that using a toy during sex can guarantee an orgasm, we shouldn’t undervalue the intimacy that results from touching skin to skin. If you are interested in a more detailed article on sexual insecurities in regards to sex toys, we have an article on it here.