Strap On Sex: Ultimate Guide to Pegging

Pegging is increasingly becoming more and more mainstream even been shown shortly in Deadpool in a strap on sex scene. However, you might still have more questions about who can enjoy pegging, what wearing a strap on is about or maybe something third. This article seeks to cover all your questions around the topic!

Origin of Pegging: Brief overview

The term pegging became mainstream in the early 2000’s after being shown in the cult movie “Bend Over Boyfriend”. As the name of the movie implies, a woman pegged her boyfriend. The movie lead a lot of people to believe that pegging in its original form is anal sex where a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate a man’s anus during anal sex.

However, pegging and strap on sex only being between male and females is incorrect, and the act of pegging by using strap-ons has been around for decades in different cultures.

Pegging in the modern day has evolved to be more inclusive, which means that strap-on and anal sex, not the gender or assigned sex of the partners doing it, is the defining feature of pegging.

Why Is Pegging Using a Strap On So Good?

There are a lot of reasons for why you would want to try pegging, regardless of your gender. A woman pegging a man or a woman is hot, both physically and emotionally, plus it feels good on both ends!

The Physical Pleasure of Being the Receiver

For men

For men there is the G-spot, that sits just inside the rectum, which makes being on the receiving end of pegging literally orgasmic. As a male when stimulated in the G-spot, also called prostate, it can create immensely cpleasing feelings, which can produce or heighten orgasms, according to experts. Some men even believe the orgasms to be more full-bodied than “normal” orgasms from the penis.

For women

Women have the advantage of being on the receiving end both anally and vaginally. Even though women do not have a G-spot the same places as men do, there are still a lot of nerve endings in the anal canal that can be satisfied. Vaginally, it is like being pleasured with a penis or dildo.

The Giver’s Reward: A Different Kind of Physical Joy

Giving sparks joy, like surprising your partner with the best Christmas gift ever, only it’s by anally stimulating them, and giving them the orgasm of their life. That alone is rewarding, but the physical aspect should not be underestimated either!

Think of it as dry humping, but better. The thrusting in your pubic area, or on your clit is extremely hot, and will certainly give you please. If you are looking for an even better experience there are gadgets you can include to make it even more enjoyable.

The gadgets include things like attaching dildo(s) on the givers end also, so the giver is penetrated simultaneously during the thrusting, or by using a stimulation pad, called a bumpher. The purpose of the stimulation pad called the Bumpher is to arouse the wearer of the strap-on. You attach the Bumpher to your preferred dildo by sliding it into the dildo’s base. When you use the strap-on on someone else, the two semi-rigid ridges on the front of the Bumpher provide a smooth, gliding, and thrilling feeling in your clit area.

The Emotional Porn that goes into Pegging

While knowing the physical aspects going what pegging is, there are also things beyond the physicality, which we see as emotional porn. A few examples could be the following, but we promise you there is a lot of stuff going pegging that makes it truly beautiful!

Switching the roles in your relationship, especially for male and female couples. Pegging can help flip the traditional roles in your relation by allowing the one partner who traditionally does the penetrating to become the one being penetrated. Regardless of the gender, it can help empower each person in the relationship by trying something new!

You may use it for BDSM play where you can incorporate blindfolds, restraints or other things to add power play to your sexual adventury. If you are curious on getting into BDSM play, we have an article for starters here!

How do You Bring up Pegging?

We advise you to discuss it with your partner in advance and get their enthusiastic approval before doing anything, rather than shocking them when they least expect it with your strap-on in their ass.

If you are the one bringing up pegging, you should make it clear to your partner what turns you on about it, while also getting their mutual consent on it being something to introduce to the relationship. This is backed up by experts, we cite Healthline: “When you and your S.O. are on neutral ground (read: not the bedroom), Jean suggests the following formula: Introduce the idea, explain why you’re intrigued, and ask a question.“. Keep in mind, that if you are reading this article and pegging is new to you then your partner’s first question might be “What is Pegging even?”.

Before you Start Pegging

You need to start preparation before you start pegging, otherwise it might hurt and can also be messy, which you do not want! We have detailed guides on how to prepare for anal sex specifically for men and women. If you are ok to live without a detailed guide on anal sex, then generally these things that needs to be considered before pegging:

Considerations for the receiving end

• 1) Hygiene: Hygiene is extremely important as it will otherwise be off-putting, and potentially unhealthy to you, to engage in anal sex.
• 2) Pain: Anal can be a painful experience if you have not prepared well enough. The ring of muscles at the entrance of the anus often stretches too rapidly or far, which is the source of this pain. Although the muscles in your anus are naturally rather flexible, you will feel a lot of discomfort if you try to enter something too big or don’t allow them enough time to rest once you stretch them.So, you should start tiny (like a finger) and progress very gently while using your fingers, a sex toy, or a strap-on to penetrate your anus. This makes it possible for the muscles to gradually lengthen without experiencing any discomfort.

Considerations for the giving end

A little amount of preparation is also required by the part giving the pegging.

• To ensure that you can put on your strap-on swiftly and easily, try to put it on well in advance of your pegging session. Having trouble putting it on at the right time might be really depressing during a heated moment.
• To gain a sense of how to peg your partner, practice thrusting and adjusting the angle of the dildo by shifting your hips.

What Do You Use for Pegging?

The bare minimum is a harness, dildo and lube.

Harness + Dildo = Strap on

Choosing the right tool to penetrate is not really that difficult. You will need either a strap on dildo, which is a set that includes both, or you can buy yourself a dildo and a harness separately.

For first time peggers, we recommend using a strap on dildo, because it makes your life easier. You do not need to spend time on setting it properly as this is already done for you, which is great perk because most people just want equipment that is RTF (ready-to-fuck) with.

Buying it separately

On the other hand, you can buy the harness and dildo individually. The advantage of buying it individually is you can choose and mix, customizing the experience. Harnesses can be either underwear style or strap-on style. An underwear-style harness resembles boxer shorts, as the names imply. Strap-on-style harnesses have a similar aesthetic to a jockstrap. Compared to underwear harnesses, they are far more adjustable, which might give the wearer a better sense of control. Thus, we advise you to go for the strap on style.

Another advantage to buying it separately, is that the receiver can choose the dildo they want to be used. If you are buying a dildo just for strap-on sex, you generally want to buy a dildo that is A LOT smaller than you were first planning on getting, especially if you are a new to pegging. We are talking at least 3 times smaller than what you were initially looking for, as pegging is a lot more intense than normal anal play. If you are unsure what material to choose, we have the perfect guide for you here!

Lube

We recommend using your lube of choice, if you do not have a favourite lube, then we commend you buying a water-based lubricant of good quality.

Now get to it!